I got real scared. The check engine light isn't something anyone wants to see on their dashboard, but especially not us. We have just finished off paying the midwife and our funds are a little depleted. So, I pulled over and checked the gas cap. It was barely on. I tightened it, and last night the light went off.
I was both angry at Dan for not tightening it and relieved that all it was was the gas cap.
My mother is entering her third marriage, so she is not someone I go to for marital advice. However, there is this one nugget of wisdom that she has passed down that I find real helpful.
When making dinner, my father would chop the vegetables and my mother would cook the meal. I asked her, shortly after their divorce, if he was good at chopping vegetables. She told me it wasn't that he was good at it, she was just thankful that he did it.My husband repeats this story back to me often, when he has helped with something, like filling the gas tank, but not done it quite up to standard. What does this have to do with living on a low budget? Well, as my mother also taught me, divorce is expensive.
Marriage can be anything from a deep friendship and lasting love story to mere co-habitation. Being thankful for the things your spouse does goes a long way, even if they don't always do things quite right.
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