Wikipedia describes the quiver full movement adherents as those whose "viewpoint is to receive children eagerly as blessings from God, eschewing all forms of birth control, including natural family planning and sterilization"
Okay, yeah, we do believe that. But we signed on to that idea, not through a movement of other like minded people. It was quite the opposite in fact.
Before we were married, we were planning on limiting our family to five kids. We had names picked out for three girls and two boys months before my husband even proposed.
Before our wedding, we had premarital counseling. We read The Home by John R. Rice as a study guide with our pastor. Our pastor had selected chapters for us to read as assignments and then we were to come back and discuss. He omitted the chapter on birth control, where John R. Rice outlines his position against birth control.
Our pastor was pro birth control and said that if we didn't use it, we'd have too many kids. We remember him also saying he wished he had more, as his three were starting to head off to college.
True rebels that we were, we read the chapter on birth control. Some of the information was culturally dated, but the Bible verses were compelling, especially the one about the "quiver full."
"Lo, children are an heritage of the LORD: and the fruit of the womb is his reward. As arrows are in the hand of a mighty man; so are children of the youth. Happy is the man that hath his quiver full of them: they shall not be ashamed, but they shall speak with the enemies in the gate." -Psalm 127:3-5Since this time, God has instilled a desire in my husband and I to have a large family. At first, it was a little frightening, trusting him with this, but now it is thrilling. We are confident that he is far wiser than we are and is fully capable of making the right decision for us about how many children we have.
We have met a few other like-minded families. I connected deeply with a mother of eight in her her late thirties. She was a mentor to me, and I adored each of her kids. Another was a family with one adopted daughter. They couldn't have their own, and because they were honest about some of their beliefs, they weren't allowed to adopt more. A friend that Dan grew up with has been unable to have any children. He is in his late twenties, as Dan is, and is surprised not to have children after several years of marriage, but is still trusting God. Then, there is the family with three boys, aged nineteen, fourteen and nine.
We are like-minded even though our families look different. We are all letting god decide how many children we get and when we get them. It can be heart wrenching at times, and scary to trust God, but we are confident he knows better than we do.
Is this frugal?
Yes and no. The more kids you have, the lower the cost per kid, but overall, the cost is higher.
Should every Christian do this?
Yes and no. My husband and I err on the side of trusting God. I often think it would be nice if all Christians believed the same thing, but what I mean is that it would be nice if all Christians believed the same thing as me. I believe I am right doctrinally, but God, every once in a while, does change my view on this or that, so I guess I wasn't that right after all. I guess what I'm saying is that born again, Bible believing Christians don't agree on everything, and it's not my job to change that, it is the Holy Spirit's. It's my job to testify about what God has done in my life through his word and his Spirit.
Is this green?
Again, yes and no. We are going to instill in our kids our values to conserve, not be wasteful, and use alternative energy when possible. Each kid will have a smaller than average "carbon footprint" but our family as a whole will probably have an averaged size "carbon footprint."
For our family, being green is a matter of obedience to God, as it is being good stewards of his gifts and resources. Both trusting God with our family size and being good stewards are secondary to our main goal in life, which is serving, worshipping, and knowing our God.